Someone like you makes it all worth while Someone like you keeps me satisfied. Someone exactly like you. Feb 14, Jessica Jeffers rated it really liked it Shelves: fiction. A thoroughly engaging play on the idea that two 'damaged' people are best-suited to fix each other. More to come. View 1 comment. Meanwhile Henry Young is in search of his own messy freedom and plays guitar in the loo.
Both messed-up characters come from messed-up families, hence the title of the novel. And both love Van Morrison. Underachieving Henry and overachieving Gloria convincingly alternate between seeing each other as in need of salvation and seeing themselves as failures, with the reader eagerly watching the see-saw totter.
Oxford with its dreaming spires, its choirs and organs, its students and refectories, is pleasingly English and familiar to this English reader. American Gloria and English Henry develop an enjoyably humorous messed-up relationship with hope for redemption, and their dialog veers from tragic to hilarious. Their love is convincing. Their hopes are real.
And the reader is eagerly invested in seeing it all play out. Oxford Messed Up is a satisfying tale of confused people in a confused world, and of hope in the face of despair. I really enjoyed it. Disclosure: I received a free copy of this novel from Cadence Marketing in exchange for my honest review.
Shelves: favorites. I loved Oxford Messed Up. This book provides a very real feeling, intimate look into the thoughts of someone who suffers with OCD. Kaufman has some personal experience with a family member who suffered with OCD and the journey to help has given her tender, insider knowledge. Henry is the one unlikely p Wow! Henry is the one unlikely person to take on the challenge, having his own self loathing issues and illnesses. The story of Gloria and Henry fellow Oxford student and "loomate" is one of damaged souls finding strength, acceptance, and healing for their personal demons through their shared Van Morrison obsession, and their growing love for each other.
Though each faces their own struggle with family disfunction and the resulting personal damage it invokes, they care for and believe in the other with fierce intensity that brings out the best in each other.
I truly enjoyed the author's impressive knowledge of all things Morrison, as well as the Plath poetry references. View all 4 comments. Apr 03, Lady Krishna rated it it was amazing. I can honestly say that it's a great experience I would definitely want to do again. Oxford Messed Up is a refreshing read for me because it's very different from my usual reads. It's about real life that some real people goes through.
It's an eye opener for some of us who have very different views about the realities of some people who have OCD. The ma 4. The main focus of the book are Gloria and Henry. They are both messed up and flawed which made them very real to me. Gloria is a graduate student who suffers from severe OCD of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder while Henry her 'loomate' is a messed up guy who has so many issues in life that lead him to being an ex-addict, ex-alcoholic with a sickness he would have to carry for life.
They are both interesting in a way that you knew, as a reader that there are a lot of Glorias and Henrys in this world. Andrea Kayne Kaufman gives us a first class trip inside their lives and their heads. She let us see how there are messed up people in this world and that they need our help and understanding. We shouldn't ostracized these people. Gloria and Henry's romance is such a sweet thing to read. I really adored reading their journey together. When they met, they were both not in a place to be romantically involved.
They both know that the life they live is not normal and being together romantically would be unhealthy for so many reasons. And so they became friends. Although, the attraction was there, they didn't act on it. Their romance was a process. It progressed little by little.
I really appreciate how Ms. Kaufman made the relationship as real as it could get. She didn't make Henry and Gloria magically good together. It was gradual but real and I really liked it! I also liked the side stories of the other characters. Kaufman gave these side stories of the other characters without ruining the main plot. It was there for a reason. It helped me as a reader see the bigger picture of the main plot. It was done excellently. Now, the only thing I didn't liked in this book is the first part. It was so slow.
I was so thankful that I didn't give up on reading it because this is really a good book. The first part was the introduction of Gloria and Henry, they haven't even met yet. I understand what the author was trying to do. She wants us to know more about Henry and Gloria and what lead them to where they were before they met each other but I found all of it completely unnecessary. I think the author could have made it a little shorter than that. Overall, I absolutely recommend this book to those who love music especially Van Morrison and poetry.
The whole book has a reference of Music and Poetry which I absolutely appreciate. I recommend this book to those who loves a good and sweet romance that has that depth which makes you believe that you could always CHOOSE happiness despite all the sad and bad things that happens in life. Oxford Messed Up is not just your typical romance read. It tackles real life. It points out the things we chose to ignore in our society.
This book is one great read you wouldn't want to miss if you're looking for something real. Kudos to Ms. Andrea Kayne Kaufman for having the courage to write a book that has the ability to enlighten its readers. We all have that power to help people with OCD if we only we will it.
This review is originally posted on my blog Journey with Books Mar 26, Grady rated it it was amazing. An educator and attorney, she earned a B.
The story is well outlined in other reviewer's summaries: Gloria Zimmerman is a brilliant Rhodes Scholar who goes to Oxford to study feminist poetry. At Oxford she encounters by far too close proximity Henry Young, a chronic underachiever whose life is usurped by music and by a past full of mental challenges. The novel gradually unveils the growth of not only a relationship that applies balm to the individual open wounds of each but also allows each of our protagonists to not only cope but to find what neither ever expected - redemptive love.
What sets Kaufman's truly extraordinary novel apart from the many romance novels that marry comedy with the agony of reality is her gift at creating characters through the use of language - the writer's only reliable tool. For example, when dealing with Gloria's conversations and thoughts Kaufman with great facility uses repeated phrases, stamped out expressions, and other indications that Kaufman understands the rapid fire synapse configurations of an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
We not only see her physical evidence of her phobias and needs for order, but we also hear them in her speech and her manner of moving through this story. Likewise, Kaufman knows how to construct the language and behavior patters of Henry's disconnect with life as others live it. In many reader's eyes this talent may seem an illustration of the lyrics to Van Morrison's songs - a figure who is prominent in this book.
But Kaufman knows full well what she is doing in painting her characters with words that go far beyond the confines of lyrics everybody knows. This new writer has a solid future! Grady Harp Apr 10, Jester rated it it was amazing. If you want a book with engaging characters that you care about to the last page, look no further than Oxford Messed Up. I had the great fortune to begin this novel on a long car trip, which allowed me to plow through in one sitting - I couldn't put it down! Gloria Zimmerman, Rhodes Scholar and student of feminist poetry, struggles with untreated OCD as she settles into her new life at Oxford.
OCD experts have vetted the book, and it shows; this is not the typical Hollywood portrayal. I really f If you want a book with engaging characters that you care about to the last page, look no further than Oxford Messed Up. I really felt for Gloria's struggles and the immense amount of courage it took for her to begin to break away from the condition.
Gloria's counterpart, Henry Young, has his own problems. Kaufman paints a very real portrait of a grown child struggling with the toxic nature of his father, and Henry's resulting doubt of his self-worth. As Henry tries to heal Gloria and perhaps himself , a wonderful romance emerges. Both Gloria and Henry are messed up in their own way, but it's fascinating to see how they weave their way into each others lives.
Kaufman adds engaging secondary characters, my favorite of which was Margo Mitchell. A professor and poet, she is hesitant to publish a new collection of joyful poetry for fear her fan base is too tied to her past mournful persona. Kaufman weaves the poetic power of his songs through the plot until they seem like another character. Don't worry if you're not familiar with Van Morrison's music - I wasn't, but the description of each song and it's meaning to the narrative allowed me to greatly enjoy the book.
In fact, the description was so interesting that I've since begun to dip my toe into the vast recordings of Van Morrison. In all: great characters you'll want to stay with to the end, emotionally real portrayals of OCD and family problems, and some kick-ass Van Morrison to tie it all together. Oxford Messed Up is easily my favorite book read in and I am a voracious reader with a stack of books teetering on my nightstand, others stashed underneath and an eReader equally well stocked.
This book will trick you out of sleep while putting a smile of contentment on your face. Andrea Kayne Kaufman has written a compelling first novel that works on every level. The ch Oxford Messed Up is easily my favorite book read in and I am a voracious reader with a stack of books teetering on my nightstand, others stashed underneath and an eReader equally well stocked. The characters are well drawn, realistic and appealing; the story is well plotted and believable with a sprinkling of verbal magic that sets it apart from the majority of current fiction.
It has the added attraction of the soundtrack of Van Morrison as leit motif playing in the mind of the reader. Flat mate on the other side of an uncomfortably shared bathroom is the charming green-eyed Henry Young who faces his own demons. Indeed, I stayed up way past my bedtime to finish the last 75 pages, as I felt such a connection to the characters created by Andrea Kayne Kaufman.
Gloria Zimmerman is a nice Jewish girl from Chicago who heads to Oxford as a Rhodes Scholar to study feminist poetry the "tragic, confessional" kind, like that of Sylvia Plath. Upon arrival, she learns she has to share a bathroom with an unkempt guy named Henry Young, who, thanks to nepotism, is working towards his doctorate in music. The tie that binds these two arrives in the unlikely form of a mutual adoration for the work of Van Morrison.
While at first blush, the verses of poets like Sara Teasdale and the pronouncements of Van Morrison may seem like two completely different animals, but the fact is that both artists' words exemplify "confessional. I am grateful to the author for sending me a copy of her book for review. Jul 02, Pam rated it it was amazing. I loved every single thing about this book. It takes dysfunctional to a whole new level.
There are dysfunctional individuals, dysfunctional relationships, dysfunctional families. The two main characters are Gloria, a Rhodes scholar who has come to Oxford to study women's poetry and Henry, a music loving son of one of the Oxford dons. The two are thrown together when their flat at Oxford shares a bathroom. She can not abide by germs. Her hatred of germs is fueled by "Oliver" a voice in her head.
And Oliver has a lot to say about Henry and his slovenly ways. Gloria combats this by cleaning the bathroom every morning for hours and applying copious amounts of hand sanitizer. Henry realizes that Gloria is probably actually more messed up than he is, and after finding that he has feelings for her, sets about to help make her better.
What they do have in common is Van Morrision. His words and wisdom are so interwoven through this story, that I had to stop in the middle and purchase and download his greatest hits album. This is a love story. It is a story of rising above our own personal demons. It is a fascinating look at OCD. It would make a wonderful movie.
Mar 19, Beth rated it it was amazing Shelves: women-s-fiction , ocd , oxford , van-morrison , sylvia-plath. I loved this book. Andrea Kaufman has done a marvelous job of creating characters with major personality flaws Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and substance abuse and turned them into people with heart and substance. Gloria, the obsessive Rhodes scholar, is studying the poetry of feminist writers Sylvia Plath and Sara Teasdale, and Henry, ex-addict and scholarly failure, share a bathroom in their graduate student housing.
Kaufman lets the reader into Gloria's OCD in a way that is both instructional and humane. Henry's issues also become a source of realistic information. For me, the book worked on many levels and I was truly pleased with the results. I would definitely recommend "Oxford Messed Up" to friends and to book groups. Mar 07, Kahlen Aymes rated it it was amazing. I loved the characters in this book. Both Gloria and Henry have issues and people that hammer away at them, yet are honest, human and real.
It pulled me into the world of OCD and I was amazed at how Andrea Kayne Kaufman's portrayal of the disease was so decidedly different than what we are used to seeing in film or reading about in literature. In my experience, OCD has always been outlined in humor rather than reality. Oxford Messed Up will make you smile, don't get me wrong Bravo to Ms. Kayne Kaufman on a valiant first effort! I'm looking forward to reading more of her books!
Apr 17, Karah Matarazzo rated it it was amazing. I was initially drawn to this book because it deals with an issue that I see a lot. I am a clinical social worker and work with children and adults that suffer from OCD. However, I was quickly proven wrong. Andrea Kayne Kaufman does an amazing job portraying the OCD voice and the internal struggle that many afflicted with the disorder face.
Kayne Kaufman clearly has an understanding of I was initially drawn to this book because it deals with an issue that I see a lot. During the day, don't miss a visit to the cupola: climb through the dome rafters for an extraordinary rooftop view. Soak up the sound of the Thames above a real ale pub.
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