However, while reassurance is good to have, what, practically, can you do if you are in this situation?
Here the experts offer their views. I think I've made a big mistake with my degree. I started a degree in history in October and I just don't think it's right for me. I keep thinking that English could have been better but then I question that as well, as I don't really know what I want to do for a career. I'm so scared of wasting three years studying something useless but then I feel like I can't go home because then I would be a year behind and have already spent money on this degree. I have struggled to settle, miss home and find reading for my course a chore, but I don't want to be left behind by taking a step back.
Should I stick it out? I'm not even sure if switching courses is an option. Most students who drop out of university do so because they do have not settled on their chosen course, which leads to unhappiness in other areas and, in the end, failing the first year. My advice is to stick it out until the end of term and give yourself the best possible chance of making a success of the university and of studying history.
Take the first week of the Christmas holidays to have a think. In brief, you can either drop out entirely or stay at the same university and switch to English, depending on whether there is space. Seek advice from the university counselling service or your personal tutor and arrange to meet with admissions in your preferred department to chat through your options.
I f you are generally happy at the university and have made friends and like the environment this is the best plan. If you want to change university you can apply via Ucas and, in some cases, directly. It is best to contact and visit universities before making an application to ensure it is the right fit for you. Some universities admit students in January each year, but this is by no means the norm. Do not worry about finance — all will not be lost. Whatever you decide, which could include taking nine months off studying altogether, I wish you all the very best for the future.
Sir Anthony Seldon, vice-chancellor at the University of Buckingham and former head teacher. I admire your strength of character in admitting your ambivalent and unhappy feelings. Every year undergraduates just like you think they have may have made a big mistake in the subject of their degree — or in even going to university at all.
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If you have not already done so by the time you read this, please seek out the university person who is your designated personal tutor or academic supervisor. He or she will be keen to help and have guided students through crises similar to your own. T he first step will be to discuss openly and honestly with your tutor your conflicting feelings about your degree choice, about missing home and struggling to settle at university.
Your designated tutor will undoubtedly be able to give expert advice on your dilemma between history and English. The university will be keen to help you thrive and enjoy your degree. Putting you in touch with older students who have experienced and overcome similar anxieties at the beginning of their course might be invaluable. Three years at university is very unlikely to be a waste.
Please try to put to one side your worries about a future career, at the moment. Finding a solution to your current situation — which you will — will be a life-enhancing lesson and almost certainly make you more employable than ever, when the time comes.
However, help is available. This might give you some personal recognition. These accomplishments may cause you to think about who you really are. Fred Riley, a prominent social worker, has treated many athletes who identify themselves as athletes rather than as children of God. Their identity is shot. Many who achieve world-class recognition may not like themselves. Some of the rich and famous, even though they have great talent and ability, are insecure and succumb to drugs, alcohol, or immorality, and their lives become shattered.
Instead of being happy with who they are, they become dissatisfied and discontent. They measure their self-worth solely in terms of their talent and accomplishments instead of who they really are inside. It is not always true that the more you achieve, the happier you will be or that you will like yourself more. As sons and daughters of God, we are obligated to develop as many of our divinely given talents as we can.
All of us should work to achieve worthwhile objectives. We should learn skills and get an education. You will be happier if you know who you are and feel good about yourself. So who do you think you are?
Who you think you are and who you really are can be two different versions of yourself. From an eternal perspective, these two versions need to come together. God knows you and what you can become because He has known you from the beginning when you were His spirit sons and daughters.
What you become will depend in large measure upon how you follow righteous principles and do good works. We need to change our bad behavior. We need to repent. Most of you have been taught about good behavior by your parents and youth leaders. You also have the scriptures and the pamphlet For the Strength of Youth to guide you. In your quest to define yourselves, do not get caught up in comparisons with role models or body types that may seem to be macho or chic but in reality are not becoming to you as sons and daughters of our loving Heavenly Father.
One year-old girl became so obsessed about her figure that she began to skip meals and ended up with an eating disorder. When it became apparent to her father, he insisted that she eat a substantial meal. This confrontation ultimately brought her to her senses, and she wrote:.
This eating thing, this losing weight had become mine. It represented me and my choices, and now my dad was trying to take that away from me, too! I knew I was hurting people I loved. I hated ME! For the first time in my life, I understood that this was my problem. In fact, it was one long road to recovery. But slowly, with the help of friends and family, I began to heal. As we change our bad behavior and turn to the Lord, we qualify for the companionship of the Holy Ghost, which has a profound effect upon our well-being.
This great gift comes through righteous living, obedience to the commandments of God, and service to others. Parley P. Pratt had this insight concerning the gift of the Holy Ghost:. Forgiveness is an important part of putting bad behavior behind us. As we make the necessary changes, we need to forgive ourselves.
But we may also need to forgive others who have been traveling with us on the wrong path. Forgiveness will help us to let go of the bad behavior we are forsaking. The Book of Mormon tells us how we can know that we have made the turn from bad to good. After King Benjamin had delivered his masterful discourse about Christ, the Nephites all cried with one voice:. You are now beginning to make important choices. Choices have consequences. In some measure these choices will affect not only the rest of your life but all eternity. Remember, my young friends, fame and fortune do not necessarily mean happiness.
It is far better to have confidence in yourself and to be comfortable in your own skin. This depends upon your ability to choose what is right. It is also important to be able to excel in some field. Last summer, the Olympic Games were held in Sydney, Australia. In addition, the use of performance-enhancing drugs was forbidden.
One young man from Denver, Colorado, who won an Olympic silver medal later was awarded the gold because the gold-medalist in his event was disqualified for using a banned steroid. But we all have choices. I believe he watches out for all of us. I experienced the agony of defeat before the thrill of victory. That made me so much more of a stronger person, mentally and spiritually.
We grow and develop by making good choices. Confidence comes as we decide to pray daily, attend sacrament meetings, keep the Word of Wisdom, obey our parents and priesthood leaders, read the scriptures, and control our bodily appetites.